APOLOGY - gara-gara kena marah dengan En Suami

APOLOGY mean matter offered in explanation or defense. APOLOGY also mean a written or spoken expression of one's regret, remorse, or sorrow for having insulted, failed, injured, or wronged another. Usually applies to an expression of regret for a mistake or wrong with implied admission of guilt or fault and with or without reference to mitigating or extenuating circumstances.

Susahnya kadang-kadang bila nak mohon MAAF kan??? Masalah yang sedang-sedang tu ok lagi lah inikan pulak yang kecik.. Tapi kalau yang betol-betol SALAH BESAR??? Tak ker berpeloh tu... Jadi, bagaimana caranya untuk meminta maaf?? Kita cuba ini....

• CARI PUNCA

Tersalah cakap kah?? Mungkir janjikah?? Dah lama kah?? Baru terjadi kah?? You can't apologize effectively if you don't know what you are apologizing for. If you don't think you did anything wrong, then express regret or sadness for the feeling that someone is experiencing as a result of what you did.
HOWEVER, if the other person does think you did something wrong, just apologizing for the effect, and not acknowledging that you did something wrong, may mean the two of you can't reach understanding. Ayo yooo.. *masalah lain plakkk...* Maka, cari lah punca tu betol-betol duluuu...

• BE RESPONSIBLE

Pikul tanggungjawab sepenuhnya, tanpa menyalahkan orang lain atau beri alasan. It may very well be that other people or circumstances contributed to the situation, but you cannot apologize for them. You can only apologize for yourself, so leave them out of it.*mengaku salah je la cepat-cepat tak payah dolak-dalihhh..*

• BILA MASANYA HARUS MINTA MAAF

Sometimes immediately after your mistake is best, sometimes it's better to wait. The sting of a harsh word can be cooled right away with a quick apology, but other offenses might need the other person to cool down before they are willing to even listen to your next sentence. However, the sooner you apologize for your mistake, the more likely it will be viewed as an error in judgment and not a character flaw. The longer you wait to apologize, the more difficult it may be to ever mend the relationship. *tengok la keadaan...kalau yang jenis BARAN tu kena la tunggu kuwwwlll duluuu...*

• TULIS KATA MAAF

Tulis surat meminta maaf jika sukar nak bersemuka. Jika susah jugak, gunakan perakam suara. Cara ni boleh guna pakai juga sebab senang nak ingat apa yang patut dikatakannn... Never forget that a direct and honest apology is best. Do it face to face, if possible. A phoned, emailed or recorded apology may show a lack of sincerity and effort sebenarnya...

• BERI SEBAB KENAPA

Beritahu perasaan dan punca tindakan anda yang mungkin telah menjadi masalah. *kalau tak bagitau, sampai bila lah dia tak tauuu..* Be detailed about the incident so that they know exactly what you're apologizing for. Use direct, declarative statements. Tak payah cakap belit-belit macam nak salahkan orang lain pulaaa...

• JANJI UNTUK PERBAIKI

Find the underlying problem, explain and tell them what you intend to do to rectify that problem so that you can avoid this mistake in the future. *ingat yerr..jangan berjanji semata..kena tunaikan tauuu...*

• ANOTHER CHANCE??

Kalau betul salah minta lah peluang untuk perbaiki kesalahan. Mana ada yang sempurna wehhh...

• TERIMA KEPUTUSAN DENGAN SABAR

Sudah dimaafkan kah?? Atau belum lagi?? Sabarlah.. Remember, just because someone accepts your apology doesn't mean they've fully forgiven you. It can take time, maybe a long time, before the injured party can completely let go and fully trust you again. *buat biasa dulu..cuba ambil hatinya semulaaa...*

• STICK TO YOUR WORD

A true apology entails a resolution, and you have to carry out your promise in order for the apology to be sincere and complete. Otherwise, your apologies will lose their meaning, and trust may disappear beyond the point of no return. *janji jangan tinggal janji semata yaaa...*

• LET-GO

Kalau dah meminta maaf tapi masih tak berkesan, lupaka sahaja!! If the person you apologize to rejects and hates your apology, they don't deserve one. If you've given them time to cool off, tried everything you could, and apologized well, and gently, but the person you apologize to screams angrily and rejects your apology, then that's their own problem. Consider letting the person go, and move on. *boleh jalan daaaa....*

Sumber: http://www.wikihow.com

SO, susah ker senang sebenarnya nak mintak maaf nihhh???? Errrr... As for me kalau dengan En Suami lah kan, mmmmmppphhhmmmpphhh.... SUSAH GAK KADANG-KADANG!!!!! Ahaksss!!! Tu yang selalu MERAOOONNGGG time mintak maaf masa RAYA tuh... Nggeeeee...

Pikir punya pikir la kheeennn.. Cara cengini sesuai tak??? Eeeeeee.... Boh kat fridge, buleh??? *nak kena pelempang????*